frup Fri Jun 04, 2010 8:46 am
I got 40. or 56% I think a few days ago.
Quite simply, tender feelings for the less fortunate, no. Tender is the wrong word, often those less fortunate are so because of their own actions.
For those having problems it depends on the problem, if it is through no fault of their own, generally but often no, again, it will generally be through their own actions.
When I see someone being taken advantage of I feel protective of them, YES, strongly.
Other peoples misfortunes do not disturb me a great deal, no, rarely, it takes something big to disturb me.
When I see someone being treated unfairly I don't feel pity for them, disagree, I do.
I am touched by things I see happen... WTF, no.
I would describe my self as a soft-hearted person, no, this is a weakness.
I find it difficult to see it from the other guys point of view, no, it is important to always try see things in perspective.
I try to look at everyone's side before decision... yes.
I sometimes try to understand my friends better by looking from their perspective, no... who does this?
If I'm sure I'm right about something I don't waste time listening to other peoples arguments, no, because I argue with them therefore I'm listening to them.
I believe that every question has two side and try to look at them both, wtf, what's your name? lol one answer.
When I'm upset at someone I put myself in his shoes... NO... I don't get upset at people.
Before criticising someone I try put myself in their place... No... I don't criticise people I criticise their actions. I do think of how they came to be like that.
I am an empathetic person... no.
Quite simply I think most of the questions are loaded. They don't make complete sense and to give the empathetic answer can be illogical. Being overly kind is annoying. I've been in situations where people have died and suddenly everyone is in your face trying to help and be kind. I understand why and they are only trying to help but by being "empathetic" they are failing other empathy questions. Suddenly someone you haven't seen in months or years wants to be your best friend, in your face when you want to be alone... it's considered rude to tell them to go away. They're not stopping to think about your actual feelings and more satisfying their own agenda to feel like a good person. I'm not even going to mention that many people just like to get involved for the gossip.
For me empathy is seeing a person in need and identifying IF you can help. If you can't it is pointing them in the right direction or leaving them alone so they can get on with the things they need to do. It is making sure you don't make things worse.
What kind of lunatic sits their wondering about their friends all day? All my friends are very similar to me so why the hell do I need to think about how they think? Quite simply we have arguments and debates and lengthy discussions about various issues and topics and there is no need to sit their and wonder, we all know where we stand.
This survey is fucked. It does not actually achieve anything. Who the fuck designed those questions, it's certainly too short to create anything of evidential value and misses out huge aspects of empathetic emotion.
Remember most of empathetic is pathetic.
Why didn't it ask questions about seeing others in pain?